Introverts and Extroverts – What Makes Them Different

Introverts and extroverts are oftentimes thought to be two distinct characteristics. However, this is not the case at all. In fact, it is the complete opposite. Introverts are the shyest and most reserved of all personality types. Extroverts, on the other hand, are extroverted to an extroverted degree, oftentimes to the point of being arrogant and full of fun.

Introverts and extroverts are not two mutually exclusive characteristics though. Instead, they are merely on the extremes of a wide spectrum. While every one of course falls somewhere in between the two ends of the spectrum, everyone of course falls somewhere closer to one extreme than the other. What does this mean for you as a dating individual?

Social interaction is important

For introverts and extroverts alike, social interaction is very important. If you are an introvert, then you are likely not going to be drawn to the excitement of group activity. Group activity usually evokes a feeling of togetherness, while the introvert wants to be left out of the action. It is this intense desire to be left out of the “action” that makes the extrovert so exciting to many extroverts. Group activities such as picnics, outdoor activities, camping trips, and others tend to leave the introvert feeling neglected and left out which fuels the desire to feel needed.

extroverts having fun

Introverts more self-reliant

One of the big differences between introverts and extroverts is that introverts tend to be self-reliant. The fact that they do not crave constant attention helps them get what they want without having to wait for someone else to give it to them. Extroverted individuals, on the other hand, crave attention. They want to be the center of attention, whether it is from their boss, their lover, or their friends. In order to make themselves feel wanted, extroverted individuals will find ways to get the attention they crave by being the most popular, effective, or likable person in the company.

Extroverts’ way to find fun in life

Now let’s take a look at what extroverted people find fun in life. This begins with an understanding of how extroverted individuals view the world. Extroverted individuals tend to live their lives to what they perceive as their optimum. This might include enjoying creative activities, conquering challenging goals, meeting exciting people, working at challenging jobs, making a lot of money, having lots of free time, etc. In work settings, an extroverted worker tends to place emphasis on this quality of working and views work settings as a stimulating adventure rather than as a boring chore.

a girl introvert relaxing alone

Introverts live a more stable life

An introverted individual, on the other hand, does not tend to live this “at its optimum” way of life. Instead, an introverted worker will typically live a more stable and conservative life. This is because an introverted individual tends to be a private person who wants to spend most of their time with themselves. The difference between the introverted and extroverted person is that the introverted person tends to place a greater value on personal relationships, while the extroverted person places a greater value on achievement and success in business. In many ways, the extroverted person is more successful because he or she has been able to rise above and overcome the introverted worker’s fears.


Now let’s look at what extroversion and introversion have to do with leadership. There is a big difference between what extroversion and introversion do with leaders. Extroversion and openness are geared toward providing stimulation and entertainment for leaders. On the other hand, introversion and a “personal corner” are geared toward providing leadership input and direction.

What does all this have to do with personality? Well, personality is a big part of the “bigger picture.” According to David Norton, who wrote the book, The Bigger Picture: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Work Relationships, extroversion and introversion are related because both are “cancellation of control.” What does that mean? It means that extroverted individuals will often seek out opportunities to gain new leadership challenges, and those introverts will often seek out new opportunities to build upon their strengths and overcome any obstacles that might be in their way.